Testosterone Testimonies
Women's personal stories about what testosterone did for (and to) them.
the_siren:
My story is I was sexually dysfunctional for somewhere
around 20 years, I think it came on after the birth of my child. I now
attribute it to several reasons, among the most important was an excess amount
of PROLACTIN in my system I nursed for a long time but even years after I
stopped I had milk in my breasts. It is now known that Prolactin is also the
hormone released at orgasm to make you feel SATISFIED. Prolactin is also a
factor in miscarriages, of which I know I had at least one if not many in the
10 years following my child’s birth. I would mention the milk thing and the
lack of libido to doctors and they either didn't respond or shrugged it off. I
got all the stupid answers and misinformation many women on this board got. If
you think this subject is in the CLOSET now let me tell you THERE WAS NO INFO
OUTTHERE until very recently. I did everything I could to avoid sex and any
kind of intimacy. I could have cared less if I ever had SEX again, and H and I
had been MADLY, PASSIONATELY SEXUAL for the first few years of our
relationship. This did destroy his self-esteem and he hung in there for a long
time but finally ended up having a long-term sexual affair about which I was
completely in denial. I didn't want to face the pain. I had other contributing
factors also, lots of different BCP's over the years, a course of PROZAC (not
for depression but for WEIGHT LOSS????) I've been HYPOTHYROID since I was a
kid and approaching menopause I was given Depo Provera for several years. I
was a mess and ignorant of what was happening or why. I finally went to a
rather famous Women’s clinic in New England, searching for relief from my
menopausal symptoms (I was unhappy with the synthetic hormones my local Dr was
prescribing for me). As the practitioner was writing out a new RX for me she
casually asked 'BTW how is your LIBIDO?' I was surprised, but I said 'what
LIBIDO?' Anyway she added in a 3% testosterone to the cream that also
contained a NATURAL tri-estrogen and progesterone. The NATURAL hormones really
helped my symptoms (Natural, in this context means they exactly match the
hormones the HUMAN body produces it doesn't mean YAM cream from the health
food store) My marriage was in shambles and years of bad sex and painful
intercourse had taken it's toll and in my case I did not notice the increase
in libido for maybe almost a year. This was during a time when H was hot and
heavy with his whore so he wasn't bothering me much and when we tried, we were
both so uptight we just couldn't get it together…He would lose it, thinking
I wasn't interested, I wouldn't act too interested because I was afraid he was
going to lose it and my feeling would be hurt. A real VISCIUOS CYCLE (sp) But
eventually I started to notice I HAD NEEDS, I was dreaming sexual dreams, I
was looking at butts, I was taking care of business on my own, and often. When
I finally woke up to what was going on with my Husband and we decided that we
really loved each other and decided to stay together I became much more aware
of what was going on with my body. We had to jump start the sex a bit, and I
did rent a sex VIDEO and let me tell you. That first experience after years of
bad sex was mind-boggling. I scared my husband and I pretty well shocked my
self. My response was more than I ever dreamed it could be. I didn't know
anything about testosterone or side effects or anything. I have since read up.
TESTOSTERONE is the hormone of desire, it does control THOSE FEELINGS, it
affects the intensity of you ORGASMS. It also has side effects, but they come
with excess use. THERE IS NO ADVANTAGE TO TAKING/USING TOO MUCH. I wasn't
paying attention and I have had some increase in facial hair, though I had a
tendency to this anyway. And I did experience an enlarged clitoris. I have no
problem with that, it is maybe the size of a pencil eraser now as compared to
a BEE-BEE. I did not experience deepening of the voice and I was menopausal so
there was no chance of pregnancy. TESTOSTERONE can wreak havoc on a fetus and
must not be used if there is any chance of pregnancy. I have since had my
testosterone put in a separate gel formula so I can control my usage more
closely. Contrary to what has been posted here you do not have to apply it to
your GENITALS for it to be effective (and your partner doesn't have to do it
for you as one poster suggested)I apply it twice a day on any un-suntanned
area such as upper thigh or upper arm, my butt, stomach hips etc. Again
testosterone is a CONTROLLED substance and only available by rx that is
renewed every six month (like codeine or other pain killers) Because
testosterone is a NATURAL hormone it is not patentable and therefore is not
being prepared by any big pharmaceutical companies (not enough profit) THIS
also means it is not listed in your doctors PDR and he won't know how to
prescribe unless he has a lot of experience. These preparations must be made
up by compounding pharmacies of which there are more all the time. I get mine
from Women’s International Pharmacy mail order from Wisconsin. These big
Pharmacies can send info or will actually talk to your doctor on the phone and
help with dosages etc. They have a web site
http://www.womensinternational.com. But there may be a compounding pharmacy
near you where they could also give your Doctor some help.
Girl With Goals:
Background: 20-something, no sexual abuse or other
physical/mental trauma. I've been insecure, but no major hang-ups. I turned to
potential physical causes for anorgasmia.
My total testosterone was <10 (lab's normal range 14-76), free was <0.2 (lab's
normal range 0.0-2.2). I'm not sure why 0.0 could be normal, but "less than"
seems like I was too low for them to truly measure. However, through patience,
relaxation, and help of a vibrator, I'm experiencing orgasms!
Not mind shattering yet, but orgasms, WITH low T levels and NO pills or
creams. This might not be the way for all, but it's obviously POSSIBLE to use
your mind/body to overcome FSD issues.
I'm not sure if I'll do anything about my low T levels. But if you're
concerned about yours, worrying (or obsessing over having orgasms) may be part
of the problem.
I know I have much more to learn about what my body likes. I need to be more
patient when I masturbate or when with my partner (neither have resulted in an
orgasm - yet). If you aren't relaxed, enjoying it mentally, allowing yourself
quality time to experiment, allowing yourself to enjoy whatever you feel...
work on those things FIRST. Work on being less stressed, exercising more,
getting adequate rest, whatever to be mentally, physically, and emotionally
healthier. My body doesn't respond as well when I am tired, stressed, trying
too hard, distracted, or even at certain points in my menstrual cycle.
If you have extremely low T levels like I did when I was tested, and want
treatment, educate yourself on this web site and others to make an informed
decision. I can have orgasms now, and am confident others out there like me
can too without treatment. Ask yourself, are you honestly doing what you could
to help yourself as I've mentioned above? If you're not sure, or can admit
that you're not doing enough (relaxing, masturbating more/differently,
etc.)... I'd suggest you hold off testosterone treatment.
Sundog:
I just started 2%testerone powder mixed with something like petrolatum
2 and 1/2 weeks ago. I am post menopausal and have had a hysterectomy and
another pelvic surgery. I had complete loss of libido for the past 10 years
and for the first time I am feeling back to normal. I live in a rural area,
but had done a lot of reading and insisted my doctor try this for me. I
couldn't be happier with the outcome. Don't give up. It wasn't easy for me,
but it is my life and I was not willing to just forget that wonderful part of
it.